Your New Year inspiration! 

Did you know that 60 to 70% of your communication is body language?

I am sure you can relate to this from the many experiences in Thailand where no verbal language is shared and there you stand trying to communicate what place you want to go, fruit you’re looking for, nearest beach etcflaying arms and facial expressions making up for the gap in common language. Sometimes it works and you have success getting what you asked for and sometimes you just end up with fishy, dry shrimp in your papaya salad (not a personal favorite).

Considering your body language in relation to your body confidence, if non-verbal communication is mainly how we are perceived, then surely we can trick people into thinking we are feeling great when we’re having anoff day, week or still feeling the post Christmas bulge?

Those days when you roll out of bed and look as though you have spent the evening on the sofa with the last series of Games of Thrones and *insert your favorite junk food keeping you company (Not disagreeing that this isn’t a great way to spend an evening).

Faking it

These are the days when we need to ‘fake it’ Pull out the winning outfit that people always say you look so good in, get dressed to music that lifts your spirits, don’t look in the mirror, don’t worry how you look, tell yourself, fabulous!

Practice tricks of confident people, remember no one knows how you really feel, it is all about how you hold yourself, tall, proud and sexy.

  • Always look people in the eye, remember their name and smile pleasantly
  • Distract the focus from yourself by asking lots of questions, people love talking about themselves
  • If someone compliments you, say thank you, not “oh this old thing I bought for 100 baht”
Fueling it

The body is happy when it is fed good nutritious food, walk out in your fabulous outfit full of confidence and spend the day making up for the pizza and beers…eat greens, lean meat, boiled eggs, avoid sugar, especially in fruit shakes that seem so healthy, find unprocessed food to give your digestion a break and drink tons of mineral water.

My perfect day of eating on Koh Lanta

Breakfast: 2 boiled eggs with rye bread (available from the German Bakery) served with fresh cucumbers and tomatoes and a drizzle of olive oil

Snack: A handful of unprocessed almonds (bought online from Good Kharma health food store, Phuket

Lunch: Tom yum soup with brown rice (served at Irie bar on Koh Lanta) make it spicy to boost metabolism

Snack: A crunchy apple or watermelon both full of fibre, with a yogurt for an extra protein hit.

Dinner: Tuna salad with lots of fresh veggies and served with sweet potato mash

Beating* it

Another simple way to feel better about your body, is make it move and sweat. Pound the streets if running is your thing, punch some bags at your local Muay Thai gym, go for a cycle or a walk, attend a yoga class, anything that will get your heart beating. Do it to release those happy endorphins, the chemicals sent to your brain that signal even though you may look exactly the same when you left your front door, you surely will not feel the same.

Checking it

Lastly, the importance of the way you look while training, not talking about fancy lycra or admiring your biceps and kissing the ‘guns’.

I am referring to the term Proprioception; which is how you perceive your own body, its movement patterns and the significance of this during exercise.

This became very relevant to me in Muay Thai training, previously when shadowboxing was mentioned I cringed, practicing up and down on the gym floor, fighting an invisible opponent felt silly and self-conscious. Then I realized that watching your body really gives a sense of correct technique.

As a personal trainer and yoga instructor I am the mirror, I am the voice that corrects your posture, alignment and reminds you to pull in your abs of steel. So use that voice in your head or watch yourself in the mirrors when you move, compliment your progress or even just on being there, because whatever it is, it is good enough!

“Whenever you go out-of-doors, draw the chin in, carry the crown of the head high, and fill the lungs to the utmost; drink in the sunshine; greet your friends with a smile, and put soul into every handclasp. Do not fear being misunderstood and do not waste a minute thinking about your enemies. Try to fix firmly in your mind what you would like to do; and then, without veering off direction, you will move straight to the goal. Keep your mind on the great and splendid things you would like to do, and then, as the days go gliding away, you will find yourself unconsciously seizing upon the opportunities that are required for the fulfillment of your desire.”

Dale CarnegieHow to Win Friends and Influence People

Have confidence in yourself and the amazing body you inhabit, because if you don’t believe in yourself, who will?

* A term from the British army for exercising until you puke, faint or win!